A Woman, Interrupted...

Not to long ago I met a beautiful lady who from N.Y. at my job and after talking to her a few times, she opened up some and wanted to speak her mind openly and freely and that was cool with me. She (like most women on the planet) has had awful luck with guys (I wanna lean away from calling these people “MEN”. You’ll see as I continue LOL) and felt comfortable telling lil’ old me about something she was struggling to deal with. She had dated a guy and he cheated on her on top of lying, controlling, and manipulating her in the middle to make a long story short. Of course he played on her hopes of having a good MAN and everything he did to disrespect her was her fault. That is partially true b/c she allowed it to continue to the point of non repair and she ignored all the red flags – is what I told her. If the story holds true then they hadn’t really spoken for awhile and then outta the blue, she has gifts on her front porch during the holiday season from Guess WHO? This act made her consider getting back with him believe it or not but instead of telling her she’s foolish, stupid, gullible, and desperate, I simply listened to her and respected her for putting her thoughts on the table as opposed to imposing my will and thoughts on her. Since I’ve had this conversation billions of times before her, I felt confident that she would realize on her terms whata mistake she was making once we (TOGETHER) objectively reviewed what was on the table [figuratively]. After some mild drama and support from her friends she cut off all ties with this guy. During our talks I decided to send her something I wrote about this matter so that she would understand that a). She’s not alone and b). I’ve had this presented to me many times before. The title is simple – CONTROL